The Whole World Secretly Joins Hands to Help You

You involuntarily begin to ask why this happens. Am I doing something wrong in the first case? The mind starts searching for rational and irrational explanations, because the mind always has to explain everything. Perhaps it's the wrong moon phase (waning or empty, you know), magnetic storms, or the evil eye (Latvians still believe in witches - seriously, they do, in earnest)?

People inclined towards pessimism even draw conclusions, or note the fact with an unconscious inner satisfaction: there you have it, I knew it, I felt it - this happens specifically to me and at precisely the most inconvenient moment. Well, why am I the only unfortunate one? EVERYONE around is successful and satisfied with life, things come easily to them, they don't have these absurd problems like I do.

Moreover, we enjoy analysing and "dissecting" our own (and others') negative experiences, failures, and mistakes - because, you see, we learn from all of this. But what if we analysed these positive moments of success just as carefully? Wouldn't there be more and more of them? If we accept the premise that we learn from experience, then we can learn from and multiply the positive moments too.

She paid me a compliment on a successful presentation. He helped me get in contact with someone I had been trying to meet. He maintained a cool head and respectful communication, even though the project wasn't moving forward and both parties had to devote several evening and weekend hours outside of working time. You feel so good knowing that people like this are around you, don't you?

It seems the only remedy during bogged-down moments is to remember that wonderful feeling that overtakes you when you realise - there are so many positive and helpful people around you! But is that the only remedy? Can any advice, recommendations, or methods be universal and useful for EVERYONE? Let us look at one more theory that I heard at a seminar quite some time ago.

If success and failure are predetermined quantities, and the rhythm of life is like a parabolic curve - up, down, and up again, down again, endlessly throughout the entire lifecycle of a human being - then for a person as a living being and particle of the cosmos, such fluctuations are inevitable; otherwise, if a straight unchanging line were to set in, the person as a living organism would cease to exist.

As you may have noticed, attentive reader, I have been using irony around "everyone", "for everyone", "all". Our ability to generalise is remarkable. Are you a happy person? (This question always puzzles me.) Today yes, yesterday no, an hour ago yes, in two hours perhaps no. Is he a good or bad person? In situation A he was good, in situation B he was bad - what will he be in situation C? Moreover, in situation A he was good to me but bad to my colleague.

In recent years I have increasingly come to hold the conviction that whatever we believe in is good, it helps, it works, it inspires, it gives energy, and so on. It doesn't matter what teaching, theory, or philosophy - scientific or pseudoscientific, religious or critical, "trendy" or "old school". Believe that when you truly want something, the whole world will secretly join hands to help you. And it will be so. And there is nothing new under the sun.