Everyone Is the Architect of Their Own Misfortune

Nonsense that everything is predestined. A person chooses their own path. Even the misfortunes that befall them are already hidden beforehand in a person's head - in the mind, in memories, in experiences. Every moment, second, minute, a person chooses - to write or not to write, to leave or to stay, to smile or to show a sullen face. The latter creates changes not only in oneself, but also in the people around you, who see and perceive you exactly as you present yourself in that moment.

Reality - a photograph taken at a specific time, possessing specific attributes (for an explanation of the concept, see the article - WHY DO FRIENDS STOP TALKING TO EACH OTHER?), which change along with changes in the physical and emotional environment. You meet other people, you adopt or repel their attributes. You cannot leap from your current reality to a reality where there is a 100% difference in attributes. There must be a certain consistency.

One's own reality can be depicted as a closed circle with several points on it, at which the realities of other people intersect or overlap. I can choose to gain these contact points with another person or to repel them.

Any choice creates a change in reality. Therefore, any wrong choice (though in essence the concept of a "wrong choice" is absurd, since every person's personal choice is correct from their own point of view), every failure to act or neglect of any of the important attributes of life, sooner or later "comes back to haunt" one. From this it follows that a person is both the architect of their own happiness and of their own misfortune.